in lingering kisses.
in cozy sweaters.
in mugs of peppermint tea.
in red lipstick.
in black mascara.
in designer dresses.
in dark chocolate and sea salt.
in just-out-of-the-oven chocolate chip cookies.
in the sand, salt water, and sun.
in fiery passion.
in the perfect red wine.
in brick fireplaces.
in bubbling champagne.
in leather seats.
in French boots.
I believe every woman deserves to feel sexy.
I believe that changing your thoughts changes your life.
I believe that emotion is energy.
I believe that the energy we put out there comes back to us.
I believe that staying present and appreciating what we have will give us more happiness than we ever imagined.
I also know how hard this is. I know what it’s like to feel invisible. Hidden. Taken over by voices in our heads that tell us we aren’t good enough, strong enough, or deserving enough.
And when we feel that way, we retreat, wishing we were invisible but so badly wanting to express our voices.
We see others doing what we want to do and we become jealous. We wonder if we’ll ever make a mark on this world, make a difference, make an impact on someone’s life.
As humans we are given the gift of feelings. Yet we hardly know what to do with them. So we hide them. We’re taught from a young age that we shouldn’t cry, express anger, or be embarrassed. Yet feeling those feelings is exactly what we need to do.
Cry. Let it out. It’s energy. It’s your release.
Be angry. Punch a pillow. Kick a boxing bag. Let it come out of you.
Feel the embarrassment. Ask yourself why. Do something about it.
When we don’t feel our feelings, they become stuck. Emotions and feelings are energy that’s vibrating through our bodies. When we hold back a feeling, we physically feel it.
When we’re nervous or excited, we feel butterflies in our stomaches.
When we’re tense and stressed, we develop headaches and back aches.
When we’re sad and full of tears, we feel bricks in our throats.
And sometimes when we hold on to vulnerable moments in our lives, we can develop severe pain, obesity, or disease.
Our minds and our bodies are connected. Our souls are what make us unique and different. So why do we not listen to our souls? Our hearts? Our guts? Our intuitions? Why do we not listen to our truth? Who we really are?
We let others influence us. We let society dictate how we act and what we have. We become self-indulgent, posting selfles and status updates constantly to get attention. To validate us. To try show the world we are different. To prove to ourselves that we are worthy and deserving by how many likes we get.
When truthfully, we have all we need. It’s inside of us. We’ve always had it. But we’ve let clouds, rain, wind—weather—get in the way. We treat this weather like it’s us. But it’s really just passing through. It’s just weather. It’s just clouds. It’s going to go away if you let it.
I suffered physically for years. Severe pain in my stomach. I had no idea why. Neither did doctors. But then I started digging, learning, researching, exploring, and I found something that worked for me. I was desperate. I wanted help. I needed help. I would have tried anything and I did. But something drew me to the mind-body connection. I was finally put on the path. I allowed myself to listen and explore my feelings. I stopped pushing away the stress, embarrassment, and fear. I sunk into it. I wrote. I wrote. I wrote. I asked myself the hard questions. I was honest. I had no other choice.
I found that I had experiences that I was holding onto. Fear of loss. Fear of not being seen for who I am. I dug through my mind to pull out these experiences and deal with them. Understand them. Because the only way to get better was to think and feel and understand. Awareness is what brought me back to myself. That awareness released my blocked energy.
I did yoga. I moved. I ran. I challenged myself. I rested. I stretched. I released my emotion through my awareness and through movement.
This is why I do what I do. This is why I help other women live lives they love. Because no one deserves to feel this way.
We’ve all been beaten up. Have had other people’s fears placed on us. Have been told we can’t, shouldn’t, or won’t.
But we have to believe. We have to believe in ourselves. In who we are. In what we do. In how we act. In what we express. In how we feel. In what we think. We have to believe. Because if we don’t, then we’ll never be happy. We’ll never have the lives we want. We’ll be forever planted in the same cycle.
A deeper look into my pain and suffering is in the Introduction of my book, UNLEASHED.
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