I’m plagued by shoulds every single day.
- Should I get up earlier?
- Should I go to bed earlier?
- Should I eat that cookie?
- Should I wear these shoes with this dress?
- Should I try to meet as many people as I can at that party?
- Should I go for a run today, even though I don’t feel like it?
- Should I do yoga because I want to or because I feel like I should?
- Should I read a book instead of going on Facebook?
I talked about this in this week’s Monday Mantra on not giving a sh*t. Click here to read it and hit subscribe in the upper left hand corner to receive them in your inbox every Monday.
The shoulds can destroy you. Over-thinking can create horrific situations.
I’m not going to give you the typical “you can do it!” or “be yourself!” or “stay positive!” sayings. Instead, I’m going to ask you to replace the word “should” in all of those questions I asked above with the word “want.”
- Do I want to get up earlier?
- Do I want to go to bed earlier?
- Do I want to eat that cookie?
- Do I want to wear these shoes with this dress?
- Do I want to try to meet as many people as I can at that party?
- Do I want go for a run today?
- Do I want do yoga?
- Do I want to read a book instead of going on Facebook?
Changes the dynamic, huh.
There are absolutely things you should do–like brush your teeth, take a shower, eat healthy food, drink tons of water, have good sleep–but when you start looking at your life in terms of what you want, it makes you feel a lot better.
And that’s what this is all about–feeling better.
There is no magical solution to all of your problems or perceived problems. But you can choose to feel better. Feeling better is what matters. Feeling better is what calms you down. Feel better gives you the confidence to spring into action and do something about your situation.
Understand that there are things that you should do and things that you want to do and know the difference. Accept yourself for the things you want to do.
I was listening to a radio interview with Gabrielle Bernstein and Danielle LaPorte two weeks ago, and Danielle said “How about you make a feelings list with how you want to feel instead of creating a to-do list with things on it?”
Try it out. Make a feelings list. How do you want to feel?
I want to feel peaceful, like I’m floating on air.
Tell me how you want to feel in the comments. Don’t forget to share this with your friends by clicking the icons below.
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